FAMILY CONFLICT AND ESTRANGEMENT

COACHING:

PARENTS - GRANDPARENTS - ADULT CHILDREN - FACILITATED SESSIONS

My commitment is first to YOU:

"Offering a path forward to regain dignity, restore your sense of self, and live with greater clarity, steadiness, and understanding -- even in the midst of painful circumstances.

Sessions include REAL TOOLS to more wisely navigate the challenges on our journey."

WHY?

I uncovered that deep regrets from patterns and choices in my personal life affected how I handled current stresses, behaviors, and decisions...

And so I began my personal "archaeological dig."

From Barbra's DEEP DIVE INTO THE FIVE MISTAKES:

2019...

Most of us are encouraged to "Follow Our Passion!"

What did I do? "I Followed My Misery!"

I traveled that road of agony, pain, and despair that comes with the experience of estrangement. One day, I turned to my business...social media...and typed "estrangement" in the Facebook search bar. I was shocked and horrified to discover multitudes of pages and groups on the subject with thousands of people in them seeking estrangement support!

WHAT WAS GOING ON?

I investigated these groups and read heart-breaking, heart-wrenching stories filled with anguish, grief, suffering, shame, and torment.

I discovered "When Parents Hurt" by Dr. Joshua Coleman. I read every page and filled in every question.

Next, I checked out Josh's  Facebook page and discovered it was not up to date.

After a zoom and a proposal, my new life began.

It's been my joy and unique privilege to work with Josh for many years, to be trained in his philosophy, and certified by him as a Coach for Estranged Parents / Grandparents. Encouraged to go out on my own, I now offer a path for families in conflict with a goal of reconciliation.  

It isn’t easy to unlearn deeply ingrained habits and shift to healthier and wiser ways of thinking.

It isn’t easy to trade judging for observing, or change words from “you should” to "I feel." It isn’t easy to take a deep breath... instead of reacting when provoked, or giving in to blaming and explaining.

For me, LEARNING has been the light in my tunnel.

How fortunate for those who grew up with healthy role-modeling in key areas like coping mechanisms, boundaries, emotional regulation, a values system, and good communication!

"We cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind. 

But NOW we can take personal responsibility and action to become who we wish."

For me, inner harmony and wholeness was the best reward  of my reconciliation journey.

WATCH MY "DEEP DIVE INTO THE FIVE MOST COMMON MISTAKES OF ESTRANGED PARENTS / GRANDPARENTS" HERE.

A LITTLE MORE ~

My past professional experience includes assistant principal of a private elementary school, director of two international English language institutes, Human Resource Manager, owner of an independent, boutique staffing company, and social media solopreneur (speaker, trainer, private instruction, and account management). I have a degree in education, a Core Coaching certificate in Positive Psychology from San Francisco State University, and have studied somatics, nonviolent communication, brain retraining...and continue to participate in personal development programs.

I live in Los Gatos, California, and have 3 daughters and seven precious grandchildren.